Thanks for being here and doing this. I've just started writing on the subject for all the same reasons and it's so important to find community through such an isolating experience.
I'm really looking forward to this Maggie and I'm so glad you'll be the one getting the conversation going! The only contact I have with my parents right now has to do with monthly "visitations" between them and my son. People talk about setting boundaries all of the time, but when it comes to a grown child needing to set strict boundaries with their parents for the sake of their own mental and emotional health, it's viewed as shameful and cold. Sort of a "how could you do that to them...they're your parents?!" They don't realize that there is a reason. People don't cut themselves off from others "just because."
I am so excited about this! As someone who is estranged from both parents (who are both currently still living and one is in serious cognitive decline), I have been craving for more people to be talking about this (outside of TikTok, although that is a fun rabbit hole to dive down). The 27% number shocks me, just from the sheer number of people who recoil when I mention my estrangements. Can’t wait for more.
Great! So glad to have you, Eunice. I recommend the book “Fault Lines” by Karl Pillemer which i will be talking about in here and I’d love to interview him for the newsletter as well once i get a few pieces under my belt
Maggie--This is so needed. 27% is a lot. You're the one for this job.
I was estranged from my father for over a year and it was awful and painful. I have not recovered but we act like we have. And I've been estranged from a friend whom I once considered among my closest confidants, since 2016. It all hurts.
Thanks for being here and doing this. I've just started writing on the subject for all the same reasons and it's so important to find community through such an isolating experience.
Welcome! Thanks for commenting XO
I'm really looking forward to this Maggie and I'm so glad you'll be the one getting the conversation going! The only contact I have with my parents right now has to do with monthly "visitations" between them and my son. People talk about setting boundaries all of the time, but when it comes to a grown child needing to set strict boundaries with their parents for the sake of their own mental and emotional health, it's viewed as shameful and cold. Sort of a "how could you do that to them...they're your parents?!" They don't realize that there is a reason. People don't cut themselves off from others "just because."
I love this pivot!
I am so excited about this! As someone who is estranged from both parents (who are both currently still living and one is in serious cognitive decline), I have been craving for more people to be talking about this (outside of TikTok, although that is a fun rabbit hole to dive down). The 27% number shocks me, just from the sheer number of people who recoil when I mention my estrangements. Can’t wait for more.
Great! So glad to have you, Eunice. I recommend the book “Fault Lines” by Karl Pillemer which i will be talking about in here and I’d love to interview him for the newsletter as well once i get a few pieces under my belt
You know I love a book rec! Will pick up a copy asap.
Maggie--This is so needed. 27% is a lot. You're the one for this job.
I was estranged from my father for over a year and it was awful and painful. I have not recovered but we act like we have. And I've been estranged from a friend whom I once considered among my closest confidants, since 2016. It all hurts.
Thank you so much for you comment, Holly. It does hurt ❤️